I always heard women talk about an identity crisis after having kids, but I honestly didn't think it would happen to me. My identity felt so tied to my career and education, especially growing up in a family and society that really valued achievement. I thought my driven, ambitious self was immune. 💼🎓

But after becoming a mom, everything shifted. 🔄 What truly surprised me? I was actually willing to walk away from my job to be with my children. 🤯 This was a massive U-turn from my own upbringing. You see, my own mom always told me she wished she'd never had kids, that she'd rather have been a career woman. So, I was never prepared for this deep desire to choose something so different. ❤️‍🩹

When I finally figured out what caused this huge shift in me, it came down to this: my purpose, my priorities, my values—they had completely changed. And they just didn't align with the life I had before. 🧭

The Unexpected Loss in Finding Fulfillment 😥

At first, stepping away from work felt so exciting and fulfilling. The joy of being present with my children was immense. ✨ But once the kids were in bed... I felt lost. 😔 That quiet time, after the demands of the day, brought a silent question: Who was I without my job title? 🤔

The truth is, I'm still that same ambitious, driven woman. But now, I also love the slow mornings ☕, the playdates 🤸‍♀️, the laughter 😂, and truly seeing my children. As a mom, I get to be incredibly caring and nurturing, and I find so much ambition in raising these amazing humans and so much drive in creating a loving home for them. 🏡💖

This version of me smells the roses 🌸 and nurtures little hearts. And yet, I'm still a planner (just for playdates instead of board meetings!), a leader (guiding tiny humans instead of corporate teams!), and a builder (creating a family foundation instead of a business!). None of that has disappeared. 💪

Identity Beyond the Title ✨

What I've discovered is this: my true identity isn't found in a title. It's rooted in my values, my character—who I am when no one's watching. And that will stay with me in every season of life. Honestly, I love raising my children. It's the happiest, most tiring, and most fulfilling season of my life. I've found my value and purpose-driven life, not just an achievement-based one. 🥰

Motherhood didn't erase me. It refined me. And even when my children are grown, this deeper version of me will keep evolving—stronger, softer, still me, with or without a title. 🌱

Can you relate to this feeling of an identity shift after becoming a mom? Please share your thoughts with me.